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Seriously Catherine – Accountability & Authenticity with Ally Meyers | Episode 17

Ally is getting sh!t done and shares her incredible journey of balancing motherhood, careers, and navigating life’s challenges. Ally, a chemical engineer turned entrepreneur and positive psychology enthusiast, shares her insights on maintaining well-being in the fast-paced world we live in.

Discover how Ally’s unique take on house organization, parenting, and setting boundaries has created a positive and thriving environment for her family. From her experiences during the COVID-19 pandemic to building a local business community, Ally’s story is both relatable and inspiring.

Whether you’re a professional juggling multiple roles or someone seeking a more fulfilling life, this episode offers a dose of inspiration and actionable tips to thrive amid life’s chaos. Tune in for a conversation that’s both relatable and uplifting, leaving you with a renewed focus on intentional living and resilience.

HOT TAKES: Everything Grammy’s, and of course Taylor Swift!

SARATOGA: Chowderfest is COMING!

FACE PALM MOM: Mom guilt, it’s nothing new but still stings.

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*This Transcript is Autogenerated*

Ally Meyers 0:02
It became clear that we just have so many professionals who are living in a world where we used to go home and like be able to reset you know, we had that time away from work and we’re just living in a completely fractured time where with work life you know, it’s really hard and you have to create boundaries and many of us don’t know how to create boundaries and so you’re holding from work and working from home and not feeling like you’re doing anything well.

Catherine Hover 0:33
Welcome to seriously Catherine a podcast about taking your business seriously, but not yourself. Alright, y’all, this week’s Hot take is all about the Grammys. Oh my god. So the most important thing is that there has been rumors or speculation that Taylor Swift was going to announce a new album but it was going to be the reputation Taylor’s version album and now she has a brand new album it’s called the tortured poets department who knows I’m a little kind of like was hoping that there would be like another it would be another pop album that sounds like it’s gonna be more of like, you know, alternative album whatever anything she does I support fully so some other things that came up so she won for Album of the Year for Midnight’s, which I support. Oh, John Baptist was there. Tracy Chapman was there. She did a duet with Luke combs and her song that he also did, which is so great. I mean, if you don’t know that song, he’s gonna Miley Cyrus won her very first Grammy for flowers. Listen, Miley Cyrus is like in the category of Britney Spears, Madonna. They’re crazy. We know. They’re crazy. We love them for it. And so I’m just really happy that she won a Grammy Beyonce was there and Jay Z and Blue Ivy Jay Z was the recipient of the Dr. Dre Global Impact Award, which is amazing. Good for him. He did take that opportunity to point out that Beyonce although she has the most Grammys ever in history, she’s never won Album of the Year. And he’s all he’s all heard about it. Like I mean, I get it, I get what he’s saying. But like, this year, she didn’t put on any new content or any new album. So I mean, it was sort of like what Where’s this coming from? And so I get like some people were like, Oh my God, why would he take this opportunity to talk shit when she didn’t even put it out any new material but like when was last time he had the platform set with a mic and to be able to speak to as many people as he could for you know for Grammys tonight. He was literally in front of the very crowd that needed to hear how pissed off he is. Celine Dion was there this is like our first you know, public appearance since being diagnosed with is a neurological disease. I think it’s called stiff person’s disease shoot beautiful and that was awesome for her to be out Fantasia Barrino did an amazing tribute to Tina Turner. And then Miley Cyrus I think was channeling Tina Turner and her outfit when she performed flowers and it was so adorable. I don’t know if you saw this clip but it’s go find it if he didn’t. It’s like while Miley Cyrus was performing flowers she like acknowledge that oh my god, she just won her first Grammy. Oh, I do have to I do have to do a little hot take on Trevor Noah. He was like the host. And he did so good. A lot of like his little clips and clips are getting like a lot of viral attention on social media. And he called out Taylor Swift and in a way that wasn’t like, you know, being a bully. I love Trevor Noah and I’m kind of sad. You know, he’s not doing the daily show anymore. Jon Stewart’s back. All right, this week in Saratoga. It’s chowder fast, a great event. It’s a wild and exciting event. And there is one person who I believe is owed a great deal of admiration and appreciation. And that is Connie crudo. She works for Discover Saratoga, the convention and tourism bureau in Saratoga Springs. And I’m so thrilled that Saratoga living after hours featured her in their email because she is the real MVP, the queen of chowder fast and she has been working for Discover Saratoga I think since like 2008. That was like the first year that charter Fest was even like a thing. And it is all due to her that it has become completely successful. And I remember the first year that I was like, sort of like on the scene in 2012. They did a flash mob on Caroline Street. It was so much fun. She has all these ideas and then she executes them. It’s incredible. She has a team of people working with her but she really is like the one that you call if you need anything on that day. She is amazing. So 40,000 People will come to his downtown saratoga springs on Saturday with that many people come into downtown Saratoga you know we need a little more resources and infrastructure to help this event run smoothly. So the actual chowder fest is from 10 to four the shuttles are gonna be running from 10 to five from the casino to downtown. So I implore you to park there and take that shuttle it’s such a fun time. It is incredibly overwhelming though. There’s a lot of people downtown There’s a lot of drinking happening back to Connie. She really is such an MVPs. She is absolutely the queen of chowder fest. There should be a crown not just for the chowder. But just like for Connie to get a crown every year because it’s so much work. You have to understand she’s coordinating all these restaurants, all their insurance documents, their health department waivers like to participate in this thing. And there’s a safety concern gotta get streets blocked off. I mean, it’s a huge collaborative effort. You know, I love collaboration, but she is really at the helm. And we appreciate her so, so much for doing this and continuing to put on this amazing event for Our Town. Thank you, Connie, for bringing a giant group of people to come into town this weekend. You’re the best. On this week’s episode of seriously, Catherine, I’m joined by Allie Myers. She is an executive coach, speaker trainer and a mindset shifter. She is all about positive psychology and helping you live a happier and more fulfilling life. Let’s get into it. So when I think of you, I think of you like as Miss Saratoga. That you’re so engaged and involved and you’re on boards, and you’re just like everywhere, then you’re also on the board of the why. Yes, yeah. So tell us sort of your trajectory. Are you born and raised in Saratoga?

Ally Meyers 6:14
No, I raised in Clifton Park. You know, I had a job at DuPont. I was a chemical engineer, working, designing specialty polymers. How sexy is that? And it led me eventually to Boston where I loved and I absolutely loved Boston. But shortly after moving to Boston, I came home for Christmas. And I fell in love. And then it brought me home. And that was the end of that. So

Catherine Hover 6:36
your husband is here. He’s

Ally Meyers 6:37
here. He grew up in Albany. But when I met him, he was already living in Saratoga. It’s funny. You say Miss Saratoga at the time, his office. So we have a family business, Myers and Myers. It’s been over 50 years, but based in Albany, and he lived in Saratoga, but he didn’t know anybody in Saratoga. It was kind of funny. So when I moved in with him, we really didn’t know anyone but he loves being out. You know, he he grew up in a family where his dad was a politician. And it was a small business. So you had to bring in the business, you had to be out you had to be chatting with people. And this life was so new to me like being out all the time at night, knowing people in my neighborhood. I you know, I grew up in the suburbs. My parents didn’t hang out with people in their neighborhood. Yeah, but I loved it. It was me. I’m very social. We were out and about all the time until we had kids. And then we had to have I said, you know, David, we can’t be out seven nights a week. And that’s when we started our date night because we said going out is so important to us like being social knowing that people within our community and so we made a commitment. Every Wednesday night, we’re gonna go out we have almost never missed a Wednesday or Thursday that go back. And eventually, we’re like, we love this so much. We’re going to add Saturday to it nice. And believe it or not, we still have the same Saturday babysitter that we had when our son was eight weeks old. Wow, she’s been with us for close to 15 years.

Catherine Hover 7:55
That’s amazing. I picture like you run your house like a like a well oiled machine, anybody coming in, sort of like, everything’s set up for success? And you just they just like, follow the rules follow whatever action, you

Ally Meyers 8:06
know, it’s funny. This is where, you know, the perception of me gets. I am a disaster in terms of like house organization. Let’s say that. Yes, this is so hard to believe, but parental discipline. I’m pretty good at Yeah. Okay. So I really hit a point. I think it was between child three and four, that I just and I wanted to start doing things for myself, you know, like going back to work and you know, getting involved in the community. And I just couldn’t do it all. And that’s totally what what fell by the wayside. No, my husband’s so organized, that it drives him crazy. But I always tell him when the kids are old enough, and like they can contribute, and now they’re starting to contribute. So the house is slowly getting back to like a halfway decent, but that’s what gets gets dropped by the wayside. But yeah, for sure. Yeah,

Catherine Hover 8:53
I mean, something drops. And if you’re really good, and sort of like, okay, with asking for help, and having someone who’s expert is that come in and help you it’s such a game changer. Totally.

Ally Meyers 9:04
But but in terms of what there are a few things that were like not negotiable, like number one, sleep, sleep is so important to me, and I am terrible without enough sleep. So we’ve been crazy about the kids, their schedules and everything, every single one of them. And so that has, you know, been super important. And then just, you know, I really feel like this day and age where we’re scared to tell our kids No, and like create boundaries, which they’re craving. And, you know, my kids respond really well to boundaries. And especially, I always say My oldest is neurodivergent. He was diagnosed early, you know, on the spectrum and with ADHD, and I don’t know, it’s a chicken and egg thing. I think if we didn’t have that schedule organization, you know, it would have been so difficult with him. And on the other hand, I think he’s thriving because we did you know, and he also set the stage with making that part of our lives. Yeah, so

Catherine Hover 9:56
it’s not like the other kids don’t ever know any different, right? They

Ally Meyers 10:00
don’t know any different they they know it’s, you know, nine o’clock. It’s time for bed. Yeah. They sitter has never had an issue putting them to bed. That’s

Catherine Hover 10:07
awesome. Yeah, yeah, so my sitters don’t have problems but my kids to bed I do write every night is just an absolute, like negotiation strategy. I mean, I’m just always like, and I have to, like, set myself up for it. So it’s like, Okay, I’m gonna be able to do this. Yeah. Well,

Ally Meyers 10:24
I think it’s just that I have zero. My mom used to use this phrase with me. Like she used to say, seven o’clock ally. It’s my favorite time of day. Okay. And she said, you’ll understand someday. And I swear from like, when my kids were little when it was seven o’clock, and they were babies. And it was bedtime. I was done. I was out of bandwidth. Yeah. And that’s the way I’m it’s like, okay, out of my room. Get to that. I’m done. I can’t give you any more. Yeah, you know? Yeah.

Catherine Hover 10:47
No, it’s I’m figuring it out. I mean, and I have like these little babies. I mean, Posey is the oldest, she’s nine. And then we have Ruby six and Z is for and Xia and Ruby share ROM. So they like feed off of each other. That’s Yes. Yeah. It’s tough. Okay. And it’s all boys. All boys. All. Yes. So tell us. So you, you were I guess a chemists like what was your chemical engineer, engineer, you know, and what sort of like you take a step back when you had kids? Yes.

Ally Meyers 11:14
Oh, I’ve I’ve done many different types of things. And it’s funny, I used to be so paranoid about you know, changing my identity. While I’m doing this today. Well, I’m doing this tomorrow. But I really feel like I’m at a point in my life that I’m like, I don’t care. Every single thing I did had a component, which was a stepping stone to where I am today, everything, even if like at first glance, it doesn’t even seem remotely related. But yes, I studied chemical engineering in school, you’re, I mean, not super limited. But I didn’t want to be in a lab. I didn’t want to be in a manufacturing facility. So I went into sales. And that was great. You know, at that point, I was just moving back to the area. And I started a business at the time where I spoke to women about wardrobing, like confidence, wardrobe, through confidence. I did some personal shopping and things like that. But I did a lot of speaking. And I loved the speaking I didn’t love the fact that I had people who thought their fashion emergency was the worst problem in the world, you know, and I was the one who was called on for that. So when I started having kids, shortly after my oldest was, was diagnosed with some learning challenges. And you know, we just had several years where it was a lot of work at home, you know, just navigating that whole special ed process and giving him what he needed at home. And of course, you know, me, you’d think I know better, but then I’m continuing to have babies on top of that, which I always wanted. Yeah. And so, you know, I was I was home based for a while, then started kind of getting back into community things. I worked for a few years helping my husband build his immigration blog. He’s an immigration attorney. Oh, I didn’t know that. Yeah, yeah. So just helping where I could you know, when you have a family owned business, I have some knowledge that I can, I can help you contribute in terms of setting up, you know, social media and the blog and everything. So I did that for a few years, because I, well, this is my personality. If I’m home with my kids, I have to be doing something that’s challenging my mind. Yeah, I really have to that’s, that’s me. And then at the time, I actually started a style blog again, I just I love the whole style thing, but it’s not what I want to do with my life, you know?

Catherine Hover 13:12
Yeah, did you feel like you wanted to have like a bigger impact or more fulfilling sort of? Well,

Ally Meyers 13:18
the style thing was taking a passion of mine, right. And I was really loving the writing component, which I didn’t really get a chance to do at an engineering school. Yeah, but most of all, I think I had about a 10 year period. So it was probably like 2005, to 2015, where I feel like the world of technology was growing leaps and bounds above my capacity. But of course, that wasn’t the case, I was just so disconnected from what people were learning what a blog was, and all that. So I use this as a way to kind of learn the skills that I knew I wanted to learn. And then I knew I would enjoy doing. So I did that more, as you know, just a hobby. And then I started the scope. So I started the scoop, which was a local blog that was dedicated to highlighting local businesses. That’s the way we started. And I had the initial idea to start the scoop in a little bit of a different business model. But then COVID came, and I had to shift that business model. So what I ended up doing was making cold calls to businesses. It was kind of funny, kids are in cribs downstairs, the beginning of COVID. And I’m like making cold calls to businesses saying, Hey, I have this idea. You know, I want to highlight small businesses, but they probably don’t have the money to invest. You know, would you partner with me and sponsor me in doing this? No. Well, how many followers do you have? I’m like, Well, I have none. But I have an idea and I have a lot of drive. Yeah, so that was a really awesome experience. He gave me the opportunity to team up with some great local businesses like ruin an adirondack trust and you know, get to know a lot of people within the business community here right again, it completely forced me to learn things like basic video. Oh, and you know a little bit more about the technology and Canva and all that stuff, which I again, love to doing. Yeah.

Catherine Hover 15:06
And you’re kind of like, you know, like you blew up during COVID, you were like, everywhere. As far as I was concerned, it was like every business was having you spotlight them. And it was just, it was

Ally Meyers 15:15
huge. I think everyone was looking for a way to share what they had in their shop that people couldn’t visit. And I was happy to do that for them. But that was a huge, you know, nobody except for the people who live in your own home, understand, you know, because I committed by contract, you know, to not only doing things for the businesses who were sponsoring me, but to be pumping out video content person of one, you know, and every week, so I did the video, I did the setting up with a call, I did the writing, I did the editing, I did the posting, I did the social media, and it was a lot when all those kids were home. Yeah, it’s a lot. So as as I did that, and I so enjoyed doing that. I knew it wasn’t forever, but it was such a great experience to kind of help the community in that way. And you know, at the time, I was, at this point now on the board, the why, and you know, I just always been pulled to kind of the whole world of human flourishing, the science of happiness, everything around that personal growth, and I just saw a bigger and bigger need, I didn’t want to go back to school. So I just did a lot of research, like what could I do to contribute to to this problem, you know, how could I do it in a way that utilizes my skills. And so that’s when, you know, I found this one program that merge together executive coaching with positive psychology, which is really the study of human flourishing. And I did, I went back, I took a year and just immerse myself in kind of learning everything there is to know, you know, about, you know, ways that we can stay mentally strong, especially with so much going on around us with technology. And in COVID, you know, we it was tough, you know, with all the boys being home, I was in over my head with what I’d commit to, I had my board stuff, and then we had other things up with my husband’s parents died and COVID My dad ended up being diagnosed with cancer, he ended up passing as well, you know, I like to say it was, you know, somebody was leading me to this deep, dark place that I just was fighting against. And so I was doing whatever I could, and these things that were working so well, for me, I knew could work for other people, too. So I wanted to get the certification and credibility to be able to share these things with others. Yeah, so it was all these things kind of came together. Yeah,

Catherine Hover 17:20
combination. And it is it is, it’s the same for me, like all these things, you don’t realize you’re gonna you’re gonna be able to transfer those skills to a later version of yourself, and apply them 100%.

Ally Meyers 17:30
I remember starting on this one, kind of one year curriculum and saying, What if I get in middle of this? And I don’t, I don’t want to use it. And I’m like, these are skills that I need in life. And I remember thinking, like, what if somebody dies? who’s close to me? How will I, I’ve never had a parent die. And I was like, there will be a use for these skills. And when I tell you there was a use for these skills, I’m so disciplined, you know, so, so regimented in my practices. And it really, really got me through some tough times. Yeah.

Catherine Hover 17:57
So tell us more about like, what what those practices are? And are these things that you learned through that curriculum, or, I’d imagine you were doing a lot of this stuff already, you

Ally Meyers 18:07
know, bits and pieces I off. And I always say this in my workshops, I often feel that when you understand the science behind some of these things, you’re more apt to try them and stick with them until you feel the benefit that comes with them. Yeah. But as I started going through this coaching program, the one on one executive coaching at this point in my life was not attractive to me. But what I loved I always loved the speaking, I love content creation using my brand. So you know, I love style in general. But this was the way I could infuse style through attractive content that made a difference in people’s lives. Hopefully, you know, the more and more I made, I was working my way through the coaching program. And you know, they say where do you want to niche am I I don’t know where I want to niche, like, it became clear that we just have so many professionals who are living in a world where we used to go home and like be able to reset, you know, we had that time away from work. And we’re just living in a completely fractured time where with work life, you know, it’s really hard, and you have to create boundaries. And many of us don’t know how to create boundaries. And so you’re homing from work and working from home and not feeling like you’re doing anything well, that in addition, just you know, to all of the distractions and notifications, we are so not present. And there is this one slide I share in my workshop, and it’s from the 2019 World Happiness Report. And this one researcher predicted like we’re going into a pretty a pretty dark place like people are very unfulfilled. And then the pandemic came, and it’s like, why are we so unfulfilled? Well, because we’re just we’re not intentional. We’re, you know, just leading life on autopilot. And so what are those things that we can be doing to focus on the things that what I say build a resilience cushion, prepare us for life’s inevitable unknowns and those micro stressors that are coming at us all the time? Right,

Catherine Hover 19:53
right. And I think too, I remember when I first started well, even when I opened Peyton’s app, it was like such a radical idea. to open up this paint studio and when I would tell people about like, Well, why, like maybe like, why are you doing this, you’re not an artist, you’re, you know, and I’m like, because it’s gonna be fun and when I will enjoy it, yeah. And like, if it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out, and I’ll try something new. So some people, when I tell them all the things that I’m doing, right, like, I paint and sip, I have palette, I have three kids, I, you know, my husband travels for work. So I am like, on on homelife, like, you know, basically by myself during the week, and there, I just get bigger and bigger, bigger. And it’s like, it’s not radical to do all these things simultaneously, you know? And it’s like, because like I said earlier, as long as you can, you can put your ego aside, ask for help be humble, and get the support, you need to advance all of them. And it is possible. Yeah. And but accountability is huge. And you know, there are times when I feel like I fall off the accountability wagon, where I’m just like, I throw my hands up there. I’m like, You know what, I’m into survival mode. Yeah. But when you’re like, even just a couple of weeks, so last week was a rough week for me. I mean, it was like a triple whammy of just bad news. And I immediately was like, you know, what, I need to start listening to these meditations again, and they’re like, it’s an inside path. Meditation. And did you do it at night? It’s like, 60 minutes. And it’s, I’m sure you know all about this, but it’s like, theta waves are a sign or a wave. Yeah. And then, like, undertone of that are like affirmations. I mean, it’s simple stuff, like, you’re gonna be okay, you know, but I’m, like, I recognize in one night, the next day, I woke up, and I felt like hopeful again, you know, and it’s just like, these things do work. It’s not woowoo. And I kind of like love someone like you leaning into it and talking more about it, because you are so well respected in the professional community, right, like a local community, but professionally, you know, you like you mean business. So when you’re talking about impact of your mental health and the positive psychology and just being happy, and how important that is, it goes a long way.

Ally Meyers 21:51
I so appreciate you saying that. Because one of my main goals with this business, which is primarily doing workshops for organizations and for teams is to show these professionals what you feel may be woowoo, has been scientifically proven over and over again. And I’m very careful with the way I present it, because you can completely lose credibility right out of the gate, or if it’s presented in the right way you can get there by into at least give it a go. Yeah, because the fact is, things like that the meditation you’re doing, you know, carving out quiet, one of the biggest concerns I have for my kids generation, and really, it’s for us as well is we don’t have those moments of solitude anymore, you feel slightly uncomfortable, and you grab your phone and scroll, because it’s been scientifically proven that when we’re feeling stressed about something or uneasy, that is, you know, appeasing something in us biologically. And if you’re not intentional about carving, kudos to you for the 60 Minute Meditation, but I tell people to start at three minute create something that’s a routine where you have just a few mindful moments free of technology, because it’s in those quiet moments that sometimes the best solutions to your problems, you can say, Yeah,

Catherine Hover 23:00
I’ve always been sort of an old soul. Like I enjoy spending time with older people have great relationships with older older people who have been mentors to me. And I used to always sort of like, and I still to this day, think this, it’s like, you shouldn’t have to get old to have wisdom to like, be a happier person, right? Like, how can we get there faster? 100. And spending time with older people? Is this better is it just share, I believe it’s just shared experiences, like sharing stories and shared experiences and wisdom and passing it down and, and sharing? Well,

Ally Meyers 23:32
I’m a firm believer, and one of the things that I you know, talk about the program that I do that my framework, it includes five building blocks of happiness and resilience, one of them being evoking the positive. And, you know, we can spend all day in the negative place in our brain if we allow it. Or we can purposefully set our intentions and our a tension, right to the things that are going well. And it’s so easy, you know, not only because of the world around us and the negative news, and there’s something called a negativity bias, we just we remember more of the negative, you have to focus on the positive and you need to make it a practice whether it’s a like every night before bed, and I started this because literally, it’s part of my planner system, what was your win today, just making sure that you are focusing on that, because if not, you’re just going to be going on to the next thing that didn’t go well. And you’re going to be absolutely overcome with all the things that you’re not doing. Well, you know, and I think it’s really important either whether it’s through a little win, you know, celebrating the wins every day or through a short gratitude practice just a couple minutes a day to really start shifting your mindset and focusing on all these awesome things that are going on, and you’re so much less likely to be pulled under when the things don’t go as planned. They very often don’t as we know, yeah,

Catherine Hover 24:45
I’m sort of like on both sides of it. I just feel like I was brought up to just be a realist. You know, like life sucks sometimes is hard and you just kind of gotta like go with it. And then there’s this other side of me that’s I I recently like one of my really good friends, you know, I’m aware. And I’m also I’m kind of going all over the place right here. But I’m also worst case scenario person where I’m like, okay, plan for the worst thing like, what is the worst thing that could happen? And hope for the best, right? And then when things do go, well, you’re pleasantly surprised and a little, maybe you know, starstruck by it. But I have a friend who doesn’t ever think of the worst thing she’s like, why would you even think about that? Why would you even put that thought into your brain? For it to percolate, so she doesn’t even so

Ally Meyers 25:27
I did. I need to interject here. So So there, one of the exercises that I share with my students is something that was founded in the field of positive psychology by Dr. Gabrielle Otis, again, I think is her name. But she’s like an expert in goal realization. And she feels strongly that we don’t just visualize a positive outcome, we must visualize the obstacles that are coming along the way, not only because we’re better prepared for when we get to that obstacle, but it just inherently gives us more confidence to go for it. Because we’re like, we got this, you know, if this happens, I got this. So chances are, if somebody’s never looking at any of the obstacles, as soon as an obstacle comes, you know, they’re more likely to get sidetracked or to give up or just not start to begin with, or or not start. Right, exactly, because that is too scary to them. So

Catherine Hover 26:16
I have so many questions like, do you do vision boarding, or,

Ally Meyers 26:20
you know, I don’t personally do vision boarding. But there are also a lot of great visualization meditations where you really are trying to kind of embody the situation that you want to be in, I remember when I took on the capital campaign for the why, and we just are pretty much wrapping that up now. And that was one of the biggest challenges of my life. And I’m so glad I did it. But it was really, really hard to do getting out of my comfort zone. Yeah. But what I had to do was really visualize the people who would be using this space, you know, and the people who would never have access, you know, one thing about the why whether you know this or not, is we believe that everyone should have access to wellness, regardless of your ability to pay. So I always focus on that, you know, when I’m thinking of the hard work, I’m doing well, these are the people who are going to benefit the whole community benefits. But you know, that’s, that’s what drives me. So a few weeks back, you know, I’ve been in the new space several times, which is here, you know, here in Saratoga, but when I was in, it hadn’t yet been kind of full of people yet. And then a few weeks back, it was like a holiday weekend or something. And I walked in, and it was packed. And I like it brought me to tears. And I’m like, This is what I envisioned. And I’m so happy right now. But you got to stop and like, really take it in, you know,

Catherine Hover 27:32
I mean, and then what happens next, right? So you and I have both built things out of nothing. I mean, that’s a huge part of like, I think about that all the time, paint and sip didn’t exist before I brought it here. And now there’s multiple locations in the area, people know what it is. And it’s the same with palette. There was nothing and then there was palette right now. And there was this beautiful why that existed. But now there’s like this whole extra wing and there’s so many more services and stuff. So how do you sort of like deal with what happens after? Like, do you have the sense like you have to keep one upping your goals? Or

Ally Meyers 28:04
I think if you are in the practice of celebrating your wins, you’re not so much likely to be kicking that goal post and trying to get the next in the next you know, yes, I mean, even while I was going through that campaign, or no matter what business venture I was into, at the moment, I always have 1000 of ideas of what else I want to do. Yeah, so what I find, at least with myself is as something’s kind of rolling out, I’m already rolling up that next thing, you know, whatever is important to me at the moment, and there’s definitely not a lack of those things. You know, I wouldn’t say it’s because I’m constantly trying to kind of one up myself. It’s just I always want to be moving and growing and learning, I took the via strengths analysis, which is in positive psychology, they feel that to be a happy human, you always must be using your strengths. Instead of like really working on your weaknesses, you got to like, really lean into your strengths. Yeah. And so I took this analysis, and I mean, my number one was like, love of learning. And I think no matter what I’m doing, it’s like, as soon as I know, I’m making that commitment, I am all in. And that’s just always, always the way but I get so much joy inherently out of the learning that even if something didn’t work out, I would be okay. Because I now I have so much more to make that next Yeah,

Catherine Hover 29:17
yeah, like just a good student. You know, like, I’ve heard that too. Like, you’re such a good student, and I like to be coached. And I like to be, you know, held accountable. You know, I think sometimes we find in leaders that, you know, they’re no at all so they have these big egos, and it’s like, they have all the answers. And I just think the leaders that I find inspiration admiration from are people who are willing to listen and you know, sort of like that servant leadership type of style,

Ally Meyers 29:43
and they’re continuously learning, right? I mean, you know, nobody got to wear it. You know, I think we’re in this world of social media. You’re so likely, especially when you’re starting a business or starting something new to be comparing yourself to somebody who is doing something in your world, but they’re at a different place. Well, they They went through so much to get to where they are. And like, with social media being the highlights of everyone’s life, yeah, we’re just not, you know, we’re not reminding people of that, you know, a lot of stuff went into that. Yeah, I

Catherine Hover 30:11
sometimes say like, I work really hard to make it look easy. And sometimes that’s a disservice to people because they don’t recognize like, what is act what what actions Am I taking on a daily basis to show up the way that I do? So it’s just like, we’re all human. And we’re trying the best that we can I give the perception,

Ally Meyers 30:29
right that I have it all together, but nobody does. You know, absolutely, nobody does. And you know, my husband and I have this funny thing. He’s like, you’re such a fraud. Everyone thinks everyone thinks together. He’s like, this place. Yeah, no, yeah. But it is what it is, you know, you have to come clean. Yeah, yeah.

Catherine Hover 30:46
So if anyone you’ve been doing like a lot of speak, I feel like you’ve been doing a lot of speaking engagements and traveling and going to, I’m assuming, like corporations and doing like leadership training or with their executive teams, or tell us more about that, and how people might want to, like, engage with you.

Ally Meyers 31:03
Yeah. So the workshops that I’ve put together help, you know, lower stress and burnout and increase resilience and wellbeing. And I think what I offer organizations is this way of introducing the subject of mental strength in a very non threatening way, you know, unfortunately, there’s still a little bit of a stigma around mental health. So it’s doing you know, leadership trainings. The other day, I was speaking to a group of human resource professionals and emerging leaders, they had come to me saying our emerging leaders are in an unprecedented place where there’s so there’s so much on their shoulders, you know, how can we support them in what they’re facing? And, and so they brought me in to do this workshop, but I do workshops for organizations, you know, I do keynote speeches at conferences, which share these five fundamental building blocks and some science behind how they work. And yeah, I’m excited just to keep on moving. Because I feel that, you know, this is the perfect place in my life, where I’m able to perfectly meld my skills with something I feel so strongly about. And that is just feels so good, you know, to to have that combination of things. Yeah.

Catherine Hover 32:08
And it’s just you’ve reaped the rewards of doing all this for yourself and for your family. And like, why wouldn’t you want to share that with as many people as you possibly can and get paid for it? Exactly.

Ally Meyers 32:16
Exactly. And you know, and I know that there’s a need, I know, there’s a need from the leadership level. And from the employee levels, I just put together my first of what I’m hoping probably in this quarter, I’m going to be releasing a library of very short meditations for the busy working professional, that really target very specific issues in the workplace, you know, maybe you’re feeling tension in your body. Maybe you have like a toxic workplace situation with another individual. So things that target that give employees kind of that Easy Bridge to learning meditation and seeing how doable it really is. Yeah,

Catherine Hover 32:55
it doesn’t have to be 60 minutes, and it doesn’t have to be six weeks, and I do that 60 minute one. And it’s like, is this at night, and I right, probably fall asleep in the first 10 minutes. Right. I’m thinking well, what I what I believe is happening is that these thoughts are still entering my brain. Yeah. And

Ally Meyers 33:08
there’s probably some science behind that. But I kind of start them a little bit, baby. Step four elementary. Yeah. Awesome. Well, thank you so much for this was my pleasure. Thank you so much for having

Catherine Hover 33:20
me. I mean, I do admire you your inspiration, your role model i

Ally Meyers 33:25
So are you and I love how you have taken and run with Marie Forleo uses the term multi passionate entrepreneur. You know, I think we’re at a place in history where we don’t need a label of only one thing, like if you want to do all these different things, just go do them.

Catherine Hover 33:41
So if somebody wants to connect with you, where is the best for you LinkedIn, LinkedIn, I would assume?

Ally Meyers 33:45
Yeah, I’m active on LinkedIn under Ali Meyers. It might be Andrea Ali Myers training, I’m not sure. Instagram ally Myers and Alison meyers.com shows you a list of services and also links to all my socials.

Catherine Hover 34:02
So this week, FaceTime mom moment was a tough one. Okay, as y’all know, I was out of town without my kids again, driving the Mardi Gras parade and my best friend’s mom passed away so I had a funeral to go to and I missed out on ski lessons yesterday. Luckily, I have an awesome husband and he’s a great dad and he did lots of video so I felt like I wasn’t missing out but when I got home last night and I asked them how they did Ruby was so excited because she’s been she’s been working on these j turns and you can’t go to the bunny hill and she master or perfect these j turns at least so many times. So the time we’ve like not this past Sunday, but Sunday before that when I was there I was like being like one of those sideline moms who was like really frustrated because they weren’t weren’t letting her advance with the other kids and she kept on getting kind of like mixed in the group and she was like upset so she kept on like signing to me like it’s time for me to go over to the money Hill and I’m like, You got to speak up girlfriend. You gotta use your voice. So we got her in the car. She’s like, I don’t understand why they’re not letting Amy go over to the bunny hill and I was like, You got to speak up for yourself, you know, like, let the coach know that you are ready to go down that bunny hill dammit. And so she’s like, okay, next week I’m going to practice and I was sort of bummed. Like, I’m not going to be there to witness this. I’m pretty competitive. So I was like, I was feeling a little like, okay, she’s good, like mover on advanced the child ready, because she’s got her little sister Zia, like right on her heels, because z is actually really, really good at it. So far. It’s only like, a third time being on skis, which is very, very good. Anyway, I get home last night, and I’m like, how did we do? What did we do? I don’t have fun, you know, and Ruby’s like, Mom, I got to go down the bunny hill, she was so excited. And then marks like Katie, she actually cried when they when they gave her like little vest, because they all get like these Dorothy’s, like cute Jersey red vest to go down the bunny hill, so you can separate the ones that are advancing and the ones that are not there yet. And Mark said, she started to tear up, she was so overwhelmed and proud that she got to advance and I in that moment was like, happy for her, but also feeling like the mom guilt, because I wasn’t there to witness it myself. And that sucks. You know, that sucks that feeling when you’re like, Oh, I wasn’t there for that. But the reality of the matter is, is like I’m raising these strong, independent girls, their mom is not always going to be there, right? Like, I mean, I’m not gonna last forever, as much as I would love to. And it’s important to me that they can stand on their own two feet and have these experiences without me eventually, right? So why not start now? That’s my facepalm my moments kind of a sad one. But you know, I think mom guilt is real. And we all feel it. And you know, sometimes I think it can hold you back. It can hold you back from doing the things that you really want to do or that you feel like you need to be present for out of fear that you’re going to miss out on something else that your kids are doing. So I just I think it’s important to share these stories. I got it, you got it. We all got it. But if it makes you feel a little less isolated, you know and alone that you know you’re not doing it all. I am here for you to make you feel a little more supported. All right, moms and dads, I got a parenting hack for you. And it’s called the Hoffman carwash. If you are a member of the unlimited Car Wash club, you’re in for a real treat, because you can go for free essentially, if you’re paying the monthly fee. I don’t know if we’re doing any girl math or mom math here, but you pay the fee and you can go get a car wash as many times as you want. And it’s one of those things that’s like a multifaceted experience. If I’m with the kids, they love to ask the car guy like if you can draw a little design on the window. They always play ball. They always do something fun. And then we go on through the carwash and it’s almost like this thing comes over my kids like they’re not psychopaths. When we leave the carwash. It’s like some sense of like therapy for them also a form of therapy when I’m by myself and I need to go to the carwash because it’s the only place that can scream out loud with no judgment. So if you are not already a member of the unlimited carwash club at Hoffman, you are missing out on a treat. Thank you for listening to this podcast and if you want to connect with me slide into my DMs on Instagram. My handle is Catherine hoever

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